Still Married to a Career Criminal (for now)

Dear Michael B,
Yes, I am still married to a career criminal I am in the process of filing my papers. I feel like such a fool because I really believe that he would change. Yet after doing two bids with him he still came out and within eight months he was back in. I don't feel like the typical jail wife etc. I am a nurse and my husband is really a very sweet and loving person who has a drug problem. I have tried everything to keep him out this last time, but the crack "was calling him". I don't nor never have used any drugs and I can't understand how you can give up everything special to you for a high. I have moved on with my life yet I miss him so much. I can't ever go back to that type of life, jails visits etc. It’s so beneath me, I feel that I deserve someone who can meet me half way and we can build. Not someone who destroys everything that I build. I pray that the lord can help him and others like him. Its so sad to see a good person wasting away in those jails like animals, but it worse to see those young ladies wasting there lives away with them. I know that the men in prisons are someone children, but I feel that they learn some very bad behaviors in there. They use people; and brain washes the weak. If any one could learn from my experience that would really make my pain worth something. I have seen so many things, I have seen so many come out and out of 10 couples only 1 of those couple are still a couple and he just came home 2 months ago after 18 years, so that to early to tell. I would elaborate, but I would be wasting my time because unfortunately the young girls who need to hear my story, either won't listen or can't see it because they have learn the hard way like we did. Thanks for letting me express my feelings. MT

Dear MT,
Yes, you do deserve better. Most women deserve better than they are getting from their man. you speak the words of many prisonwives that I hear from. Many of them just have not verbalized it to their man or done anything about it as you have. I wish you and your husband the best of luck. Mb